- Are you at a stage in your life where you feel that everybody else is moving on with their lives but you feel like you are stuck in a rut and going nowhere fast?
- Are you questioning yourself as to when will it happen for you or thinking that you have missed the boat?
- Did you think by this age, that you would have been further ahead by now?
These are common questions for women who thought by now that they would have found their perfect partner, buying their own house and settling down. Yet in reality that doesn’t look like it will be happening anytime in the near future!!
When they were younger, they believed that they go to school, college, get married and settled down. This was all their focus, with the intention to keep ticking off the milestones as they happened. However, no one ever talked about having a Plan B if it didn’t happen by the age, they expected it would.
So now it leaves them feeling like a failure, that they aren’t good enough. That somehow, they are broken because everyone else is moving on except them. Everywhere they look they are constantly being reminded of loved up couples, baby announcements, friends no longer available to go on nights out as they are too busy saving for a mortgage etc. To make things worse, this is intensified due to social media constantly bombarding them 24/7 reminding them it isn’t happening for them. Just as they think they will get a break from it, a family member or colleague asks the dreaded questions “Are you still single??”, “Will you ever settle down??”, “Maybe you shouldn’t be so picky and lower your standards instead”. No wonder women are feeling like they aren’t good enough no matter what they do and that they are falling behind in life.
I know this feeling all too well. I’ve been there and worn the t-shirt. I stayed in relationships longer than I should have just because I should be considering settling down. I remained in jobs for far too long because others said I should as they were good opportunities. I delayed making the best choices for me as I considered others opinions to be much more valuable than my own. As a result, on paper it may have looked like a good life. But in reality, I was just going through the motions. Waiting for something to change, so that I would be happy once I got on track with where I supposedly should be by now at this stage of my life.
When I started making choices that were best for me and the life I really wanted – a lot of people were quick to voice their opinions and disapproval. This led me to doubt myself and I continued to feel not good enough and that I should be further ahead at this stage of my life. Everywhere I looked, I could see my friend’s lives were going according to plan and mine only seemed to be getting slower and slower. So, I understand how you are feeling right now.
But the good news, is there something you can do – You can take control back by creating the perfect life for you and live life on your terms.
When I realised that no one or nothing could change and make it all miraculously better. I realised I had to be my own knight in shining armour. I had to find my voice and start fighting for what I really wanted. The first step of this journey was figuring out what exactly that I wanted. What I truly wanted and not based on the “should” of others.
When you start living life on your terms and create the perfect life that you want. You no longer feel life that you aren’t good enough or that you are a failure as you aren’t doing what society thinks you should be doing.
- You will have clarity as to what is truly important to you and the life you really want to be living.
- You will have confidence to trust yourself to make the best decisions for you.
- When people question your choices you no longer feel ashamed and embarrassed. Instead you smile and laugh as you know that whatever isn’t in your life right now is ok. As you are confident that it is coming and it will be worth the wait.
- In the mean time you are enjoying your life right now.
If this is something that you would like to have in your life and stop feeling like you are falling behind in life and feel like your life is just as good as others if not even better.
If you are ready to take back control. Contact me to start working with me so that you can enjoy living life on your terms today!!