It’s that time of year again, St. Valentine’s Day, love it or hate it that is your choice. However, this year whether you are single, in a relationship or whatever label you wish to use, I have a challenge for you.
This year I want you to start loving yourself for who you are.
Make time for yourself to acknowledge and appreciate the unique person you are. There is no one else in this world like you! They may have similar looks, traits, characteristics but they are not you and never will be. You have a unique set of talents and abilities which this world needs. But we are so caught up with noise and distractions of what others are doing, we no longer know or appreciate all that we have to offer to those around us.
If you are single, don’t focus on what you wish you had in your life by now. Focus on all the great things you do have in your life. Instead take this time to work on yourself, find out what is important to you, know your boundaries and tolerations when it comes what you want from your life. Be conscious of your inner critic (that little voice that tells you aren’t good enough or you don’t deserve to be loved etc.). Learn how to manage these thoughts that hold you back from getting what you want in your life. Most of all enjoy being single and doing things that are important in your life. Your other half will show up when the time is right, in the meantime make the most of your life. Why not tick another thing off your bucket list?
If you are in a relationship, I hope that it is a healthy one where you both show love for each other, not just on Valentine’s Day but also on the other 364 days of the year. Take some time to acknowledge what is good in the relationship and where improvements can be made by both people. It is important to have your independence, where you have time for yourself and a chance to do things you enjoy. If you have been in the relationship for a long time be careful of bad habits creeping in, keep the communication lines open and talk things through rather than letting them build up and growing resentful. Most of all prioritise quality time together, have your date nights, go for your walks, enjoy each other’s company on a regular basis, keep nurturing that precious spark and connection you have.
Be your own best friend, Love yourself,
Stand up for yourself, Take care of yourself,
Make yourself happy and
Never settle for LESS!!!
This St. Valentine’s Day, take time for yourself. Sit and relax with a nice cuppa (chocolate is optional)) and appreciate all the good things you have to offer. Think about how you make those around you happy, about all the things you do for those in your life and give yourself a big hug as you deserve it. Now I want you to think about what makes you happy? Where is it in your daily life? Can you do anything else to help have more of it in your life?
It is essential in today’s world that you show more compassion to yourself. This include doing more things that bring you happiness on a regular basis. It is all the small little things that build into bigger things i.e. your overall happiness. Looking after your happiness and well-being should be a priority for you. When you love yourself, and are happy, you instantly have a positive ripple effect on those around you.
Here are 10 tips to help improve how you can demonstrate more love for yourself on a daily basis;
- Accept where you are right now and acknowledge you done the best you could
- Spend quality time with people who build you up
- Stop comparing yourself with others
- Forgive your past self – take the learning and move on in your life
- Be honest with yourself and make changes where necessary
- Stop the inner critic making you feel crap about yourself – would you let a friend talk to you like that??
- Get some fresh air and notice the beauty in your surroundings
- Create opportunites to meet new like minded people and explore new things
- Celebrate your achievements especially your small victories
- Do one thing that makes you happy each day
P.S. If you want to learn how coaching can help you love yourself more and how this can help lead to a more fulfilling life in all areas of your life.